I want to reassure you that there is good information on this forum and good advice on how to rebuild when you are hurting, confused, and sad because of a relationship breakdown, regardless if you are the left or the leaver. You need to read and pick & choose what you take to heart.
I heard you share a lot about your husband and his former marriages and trials & tribulations in your initial posting. Do you feel comfortable sharing more about you and your thoughts & feelings about the breakdown of the marriage?
I am a feeling stuffer as well and it took a lot of practice to identify feelings and then connect them to thoughts. But it was well worth the effort for all my relationships, once I got better at it.
Now may be a good time to start... you already said you were sad. I'm not sure a year ago I could have identified even that much!
I can totally understand that.. are there other feelings? I heard you say you stood by your H and supported him through his tough times.. how do you feel about yourself for doing that?
Since you are applying for jobs are you feeling hopeful at some level for getting one?
Since you are here, are you feeling the need to be understood & comforted by others going through similar circumstances?
I am new here too in terms of posting, but I have been reading here for over a year, so I hope you can find some tidbits of that comfort & support you may be looking for.
Peace to you.
Last edited by Bridgestone; 06/04/0804:57 AM.
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
