Glad to hear you're feeling better. How I loved those warm days with the kids playing in water. There's something so pure about that.
With your husband visiting so frequently it makes you wonder. You dropped the rope, the pressure is off.. and he's forced to focus on what's really going on.
I realized today that my husband was still being the provider for the family. We still use the joint checking account. It's as if in dropping the rope, the world stops being black or white. Grey kicks in and so does understanding and awareness not clouded by guilt.
Very strange.. but it feels a whole lot better than desperation.
Hey lwb, I saw the movie with some of my work ladies the day it opened and it was pretty good. A lot of the movie is about forgiveness. There was one email in the movie that hit a little too close too home....actually brought tears to my eyes because I could see my X saying the exact same thing :-(
Glad to hear that you had a great day with the girls. The weather that we've been having all of the sudden is perfect for the pool.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Had lunch with coworkers today (Sorry Hope!) since I was downtown for an early meeting. It was very nice.
Then spoke on the phone with a mortgage broker. This is a friend of H's. H told him I would be calling. He said "Just wanted you to know that H told me you would be calling, and to treat you right, since you and the girls are his world". ??? Anywhooooo....the ranch house I want sounds doable financially. It will be tricky to sell ours and afford that one at first, but I think we can do it.
First mediation appt tomorrow afternoon. Not sure how I feel about it. Mixed feelings I guess.
I know that tomorrow won't be easy for you, but this is where you feel you need to go with your H. It may be an eye opener for him. Just look out for yourself.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Thinking of you tomorrow - take the high road. Watch out for your self interests as much as possible but realize that everyone has to compromise. The trick is figuring out how to make the compromises work best for you.
I am going to the lawyer tomorrow as well so I will be thinking of you for sure!! You can do this....you can!
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
With your husband visiting so frequently it makes you wonder. You dropped the rope, the pressure is off.. and he's forced to focus on what's really going on.
Makes me wonder too!!! Thanks for dropping by my thread today! Karen
Thanks for dropping by my thread today!