Well, I screwed up by putting too many blue cheese crumbles into the veggies. It probably would have been good if I hadn't gone overboard. Hey - I'm trying! Might as well screw it up now while I'm learning so I can impress a female companion at a later date, right? I don't think beer & brats is too romantic.
Tired of this churning in my mind. I'd really like to DB, but I hate the fact that this is the second time W has done this. So I need to really move on, and that means a 180 by taking care of myself before trying to be a friend. So I sent W the following:
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Mrs. Lodo,
After giving it some thought, I think it'd probably be best if we forget about lunch next week.
You told me you felt relieved and good about ending a relationship with me in order to pursue another, so it hardly seems fitting to lunch as if nothing has happened. Perhaps someday after the divorce is final we can be friends again. But not now.
Good luck with your concert. I'll be there in spirit. And enjoy your birthday party.
me
Not DB at all, I know. SG would ask "will this bring you closer to your goal?" And while I'd like my goal to be reconciliation, I think those of us in Infidelity realize that there will never be reconciliation until the WAS is truly remorseful and ready to work on the M. Otherwise it's all just p*ssin' in the wind. So my goal, like g says, is to make sure my own life is strong. Which I've been doing but I'm no longer going to let W in whenever she wants.
