Everything is pretty much joint, she has some CC's in her name as I do in mine. The house is joint however her name comes first, I have been told that this makes her primary? Not sure how that works though.
I understand it's business, but I don't think she will see it that way. Obviously, this is something that she & I need to converse about, it will effect her just as badly in the long run if something isn't done ASAP. I won't go this alone, she is part of this whole picture and will have to realize her responsibilty here one way or another.
Hey Brian just checking in with ya buddy! You hang in there and be strong and worry about you and not what your wife is doing or thinking. I often wonder to what is going on in that head of theirs but like everyone says you will never be able to figure out anything in that complex machine of theirs cause they have no path right now.
Lately with me working out it gives me so much energy and I feel like I am 21 all over again which also gives me that PMA. When I see my wife now I am like a little kid in a candy store and happy as all get up. I have been doing what you told me and let everything slide off the ducks back
Sorry I don't have much advice for ya but you hang in there and stay positive! You take care of yourself and your daughter and show the wife what she will be missing.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Hi SC, I just got caught up on your sitch and (sorry) I busted out laughing OMG how scary was that your poor hair. I am so pleased for you things seem good at the moment for you. You and H had some positive flow going.
I am hanging in there, not much to update I'm not sure at the moment who is darker W or me. I still am not contacting her letting her do that and just giving her the space that she wanted.
Things haven't changed much, like I told SC don't know who is darker W or me but just trying to stay the course right now and letting her iniate contact and give her the space she wanted. This is so taxing on ones mind, I get it now why detaching is so important. Just taking it day by day and solve one thing at a time.
My heart right now is going out to Mike, and I am asking myself if we are the smarter species how does it get to this point...
Thanks for checking in on me, I posted on your thread don't know if you saw it or not
Things haven't changed much, like I told SC don't know who is darker W or me but just trying to stay the course right now and letting her iniate contact and give her the space she wanted. This is so taxing on ones mind, I get it now why detaching is so important. Just taking it day by day and solve one thing at a time.
My heart right now is going out to Mike, and I am asking myself if we are the smarter species how does it get to this point...
Thanks for checking in on me, I posted on your thread don't know if you saw it or not
Peace be in your heart
Brian
Brian. I'm alright, don't worry about me. I am here for you brother. When you saw the picture of the Davey Allison look alike today, I never got anything. Could you go back and try again?
Mike I do worry hate to see people in pain guess that's just my sappy side, be well brother I to am here for you.
Quick update....
Having some VERY severe weather here in Nebraska, tornados, hail, 60-70 mile an hour wind, so who does W call (she hates this kind of weather),ME totally in tears, just terrified the sirens were going off she was tweeking, so I got her calmed down told her to go to her basement or a interior wall perferably the stairway wall going downstairs. I reassured her she would be fine, told her to get a blanket to protect herself with, the kids weren't home so she was really freaking out. As much as I wanted to tell her I loved her I didn't just told her I am here for you and I am there in spirit.
She called me back 20 minutes later and asked if it was safe to come out, I said was about to call you and tell you it was okay.
Hard not to persue in that sitch but I think I handled it okay?
