One last thing, OM is NOT the problem! She didn't become involved with the OM because life was a bed of roses for her at home, she went elsewhere because something was missing. She was suceptible because of that not because some incredible specimen of manhood swept her off her feet. We often want to put all the blame on the OP but that only bi-passes the reality, there were things not right in the M and to regain the M we must address what those things are. OP is a sad human being who in order to meet his/her own needs is willing to break up a family. I can't imagine how they live with themselves! Better to be me than either my unfaithful W or her pathetic lover.
