Still in love with my waw....after divorce

[Bill_S]

Oh...

It took me months to see it (and getting attention from some women helped :D) but it finally sunk in. I still get twinges but its not the same as before. It went from "Gee why dont you love me?" to "Gee, why am I hanging on to nothing?". Plus seeing her with the guy just caused something to snap. She just told me today Ive been "mean" for many weeks now. Had to explain by text (she cant "handle" talking to me ?) that its not the end of our marriage that bugs me its being treated like a throw away tool. Good when the need arises but after that I get tossed aside. Its called "using" but she doesnt see it that way. Just another issue that will come back and haunt her later with whoever shes with. She cant see its possible to use someone without doing it intentionally. Told her its one more reason I "ended" it in my heart.

So here I sit. More calm, happier and I can see a future that will be GREAT without her. And all I have to do is take one step at a time and watch the pieces fall into place. Yeah, it wont be easy. It will hurt at times. Ill get burned and rejected again. Ill have to stick my neck out and take chances. But thats life. At least I know the women out there cant do ANYTHING worse than what my ex did