Rob, First of let me tell you that reading your thread has helped me deal with my H. Lately there have been some very small baby steps. Men really do think differently then women. I am still learning. Anyway, I know that no matter what you say or do the restoration of your M is what you really want.You know you will pick up the pieces and go on if it ends but you don't want that. The thing is, if you have any hope of having a life after D you have to start preparing. The constant contact and texting with your W is just not good for either of you.It will be a hard habit to break, and if someone else enters your life she will not put up with it. Also if you really care about your W deep down, then you have to allow her to see what life will be like with out you Before the D. If she gets angry when you don't respond, perhaps remind her she is divorcing you. Transferring of D should be your only conversation. It is hard and very scary but just maybe it is needed now. The very sad part is, that it sounds like your W needs you far too much to get a D. I hope she realizes it at the 11th hour.No matter what anyone says, or how bad things seem , there is always hope for a miracle
