For the Guy with Kids and a WW4

[hopeful4her]

Thanks for correcting me. You are now even MORE like WW. WAAYYY back, it was WW that brought up joint custody. Both of us just want them to physically. I think that that is what I wanted to set as far as a plan when I was hugging her Sunday. Maybe some kind of equal time plan. I hate to bring it up though.

Before her illness last year, we spoke to our Pastor. She went in defensive. Our Pastor had gone through a D himself about 4 years ago. Wife left him and the kids for another man and got pregnant by other man. WW felt like he was going to be jaded.

Of course he is. He is looking at it from a biblical perspective. After he heard each of our side, he then asked me if I was willing to work on the marriage. Of course I said yes. He then asked WW. She paused and said that we were both not going to like her answer.

He did not approach it correctly in my opinion. She was not there to be swayed one way or another.

As far as Retro, I have brought up counseling, but to no avail. I have not brought up Retro, as I think it would just be shot down. I brought up that I wanted us to go to counseling that day that I saw WW and OM having lunch together. Probably not the right time to bring it up. And Retro requires that no third party be involved. They have to be given up prior to Retro.

Recall that on the phone a couple of days later, we talked about family counseling and she was possibly up for that.