Sorry that this day is here. It is not the end, however.
The "Slut" thing with the phone cracked me up.
My phone still has a picture of her blowing me a kiss and "Babe".
Her phone still has my picture and "Babe", too.
Will check on you later. Did she ever send you the email? I wonder if you should have sent her one instead, explaining how it was better to "talk" by email. Oh, well. Done is done.
Good luck today.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Guys - life goes on - this is what she wants and I cannot stop her. I am trying to find a new way to communicate with her - talking is just damaging, to much hanger - the email I think is a good alternative, very rarely we exchanged emails, so it would be a good 180 as well. Unfortunately I don't think she is very inclined to write, she likes to talk - so is going to be hard to "force" her to use this medium. Only is she really feels like she wants to communicate with me she is going to adapt, but I don't see it happening now.
On another front - I told W few days ago that EX W contacted me - she answered "you don't have to tell me that and I don't want to know" - so that was it -
I sent an email back to Ex thanking her and saying that, yes, I am going through a lot and it would be nice to chit chat a bit. This was few days ago and she never replied back.... Probably her husband put a big stop on this and I do understand, also if there is really nothing, at least from my side.... I know I wouldn't like it.
This morning, when W said that today was a good day to sign the papers D4 started crying saying she doesn't want me to leave.... I am so impressed by how intuitive is this little girl. Saturday while we went to park my S6 said - this is the park where OM brings the dog - D4 immediately replied " I hope he is not going to be here" S6 was puzzled, he asked "why?" --- He looks so clueless, I think W brainwashed him a bit about her "friendship", but D4 got right away what is going on.
I always called my D6 my "little sixth sense" girl. She just senses things.
Your WW is a sh**head for saying what she said. Vindictive and venomous. With all the stuff she spouts out, dude, hard to see what you see in her from over here.
People might say the same about me.
While it may be better for the both of you, it is the kids. If it just weren't for the kids. If WW and I didn't have kids, who knows. I MAY have been able to kick her to the curb already.
Of course, then I come back to reality.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Here I am - papers signed but.... here is what happened. W calls me and says she is going to pick me up and we go together - I said nop - I'll go with my car thanks - "ooh come oonn" - "no really!". I arrive there and she is crying, crying. Me: What's up? W: It is hard! Me: Hey it doesn't have to be today.... W: No, let's go. So we go inside and we sign all the paper, at the end she asked, what if I want to delay the procedure for a couple of months? Attny: Once the paper is sent that's it.... if you want I can wait to send it. W: Ok wait, I'll call you in a couple of days. me:(??)
We go outside and she starts crying again. W: You are such a pain in the A$$!! Me: ? W: When I was coming here I was listening to NPR and they broadcasted our wedding song. Me: WHAT??!!..... note: our wedding song is an humoristic italian song from the 1940, something IMPOSSIBLE to find, it took ME ages to find the recording, and I don't think it has never been brodcasted in US until today.... I thought that this was mystical.... W: What the chance! While we go to sign the divorce they broadcast our song! Me: OUR SONG??? Where did they find it? W: How the hell do I know?? She cryies and cryies - and says "you are such a pain in the A$$! I am sorry for what is happening, I miss us. Me: not sorry enough - not sorry enough not to start a relation with somebody else. We: I DID IT ONLY TO FORGET ABOUT YOU AND IS NOT WORKING! Me: You start a relation because you like a person not to forget somebody. W: You may like a person but it may not be enough.... not with all the baggage I have because of you.... and you have a relation too BTW. me: No I don't - I lied, I didn't have any relation. It was all a big show to make you jelous, and now I can tell you because the show is over. We signed the papers, this is what you want, that's it. W: I don't believe you. Me: Whatever W: you didn't make me jelous anyway. Me: It's ok I tried. W: Ok are you coming today to get S? Me:Yes W: ok see you later I need to go. Me:bye
lwb I don't know what to think. I always thought she was very much in love with me when we where together. Something "strange" happened that put her in this big crisis and she thought divorce was the only solution and she set her mind to go with it no matter what. Today she got a bit emotional but I am sure she is going to close that door as soon as she can.... probably it is already closed.
When I asked her if she wanted to sign another day she actually answerd, "no let's go.... we can always get married again" I said "I don't think so".
Anyway, as long as OM is in the picture there is nothing I can do. She said that OM is not the problem, I answerd that for sure is not the solution.
