Not quite correct. I know my H would have lived in the same city as me JUST so that we could both have Lucas equally. We would have had him absolutely equally. Something like: I would have him M, T, W A.M., he would have him W P.M., Th, and F, and then every other weekend and holidays...something like that. Since we were really always friendly with each other we would have been flexible as well I'm sure. My son would have wanted something like this. He would miss me or him too much being away from each other that length of time. I just always thought that was the fairest to him.
The way you describe yourself is the way my H was. The things you are changing are the things he is working on now more than ever. Up until we got back together he just focused on S more than anything. If he had done some changing I would have come back quicker, and I think the changes you are doing are making your W stay right now...so that is good. You are doing everything you can and that is what you need to do. Now, SHE needs to come to the realization that she doesn't want to leave her family and that change is possible between you two. Anything more with retrovaille? How can she refuse this.....? Have you suggested she talk to a pastor or anything?
