For the Guy with Kids and a WW4

[hopeful4her]

At this point, don't they think that we are ALL controlling?

I considered myself to be the classic passive aggressive. Very even tempered. Quiet and unassuming. Always treated WW lovingly and tenderly. People HAD to like me. Never the in your face person. I would always do something funny, then someone would want me to do it again, and I couldn't. Unable to make fun of myself. I have always let her have her way. I am usually the one to get home first. I would always ask WW what she wanted for dinner. To me a normal question. I think to her, she wants me to just make the decision. Same with going out. What do YOU want to do? Non-confrontational.

You are correct that being strong, leading and even a bit confrontational would be a 180 for me.

I was also unemotional for the most part. When we(or she) moved nephew into the house, I also very much became grouch. I was very unhappy with it. Became much like my father. I am no longer that person.

My 180's are being able to laugh at myself, be silly, decisive, work on things outside the house, try to do guy stuff(like watching sports like I used to years and years ago), go out with the guys(not really done that one yet), taking kids out on my own without WW, working out, riding rollercoasters and rides. Going to movies(crowds bugged me), and taking stands.

There are so many other things that I could do, but these are just a start.

I am still learning. It is the 180's in my relationship that I have to figure out. Hopeful that it is not too late for it.