The job sounds more like so HE can save up money. It probably wouldn't be a bad thing for you though because if it does get to D then you would probably have to get a job right?
Hopefully he will be receptive to the bargaining tool. It is really a compromise for the both of you....but he may not. He may still see it as a last ditch attempt from you to control the situation but I think it was worth trying. All he can do is say no.
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I keep reading all these success stories on here lately. With situations that seem as dire as mine and I can't help but be hopefull.
There are a lot of success stories here, and it does help give you hope. Some people have come back from really bad things. I really didn't even think my H and I would even be friends....much less piecing. I am not sure how much you know of my story but he did file for D. We were in TX at the time and it only takes 60 for it to be final. About 30 days in I got a job back home in AL (about 1000 miles away), and decided I couldn't pass it up. I knew that even if H and I reconciled I would resent him for causing me to miss out on that opportunity. When I left I truly thought I would never see him again. His family lives in AL too but not the same city as me.
H pulled the D off the table during the last week. He told me he couldn't go through with it. That is one reason I say don't make it easy for him. If I had gotten frustrated and filed myself then it would probably be done.
Let me tell you though, I was done myself....I just couldn't bring myself to file. When I found out he was living with OW I was done and didn't think we could recover from that. He ended up taking the huge step to move here in January. We have still had our ups and downs but he seems to be back to his old self.
So, sorry to talk about myself so much...I just wanted you to know that it does happen.
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I just really don't know if there is going to be a miracle ending for me.
There may not be. BUT, DBing is for YOU. It is about making yourself a better person, taking care of yourself, rediscovering yourself and the things you love. You WILL be a better person for it. If your H comes back, it is just the icing on the cake. If he doesn't, you will be ok.
Hang in there, patience is the hardest part. Even if he filed today you would have three months and a lot can happen in three months.
