IF I go full time then yes I'll have to put them in daycare. H and my original plan was to wait for that until Fall to make the least inpact on D6 as possible. She'd be back in school, and have an easier adjustment with just going afterschool a couple hours I think. I've been a SAHM since they were born, so I'm dreading the all day thing with her. My younger one I think will adapt ok because she's younger and won't know different.
Right now he says he just wants me to get a part time job opposite him like 3 days a week to save money. But I really don't see how I can save up money if we need it to pay for gas,groceries etc while he stays with a friend.
Not sure how that is going to work out. I sent a very "business" like email today asking some of these questions.
I sort of tried the bargaining tool, and told him if he'd go the Legal Separation route first (that takes 6 months, vs 90 days for a divorce in our state) that I'd sign the papers when he moves out for that. Really the only difference is it buys me 3 more months. If we decide to make it official from separation to divorce, it's just a matter of a phone call. The waiting period doesn't even restart. So I'm literally just asking for 3 more months. We still would have to figure out everythign (finances, house, kids etc.) with the legal separation so he could still feel like he's moving forward.
I don't know, we'll see what he says tonight.
I keep reading all these success stories on here lately. With situations that seem as dire as mine and I can't help but be hopefull. But I also have a track history that if something really awful is going to happen, it's going to be to me. And I don't mean that as a woe is me thing. I know we all have our stuff. I just really don't know if there is going to be a miracle ending for me.
I'm going to GAL and TLR and try my dardest. Thank GOD I found a church home 2 years ago, because right now I feel like my faith and my friendships are the only thing getting me through.
Chris
__________ Me:39 H:39 D:8 D:4 M:9 (T 13) Bomb 4-5-08, H moved out 6-16-08, Reconciled and H moved back in 5-31-09 Still doing GREAT a year later!!!
