A Very Rough Year - Breast Cancer & MLC

[TwinDad]

I hate the partying crowd! I hate it when my H won’t return my calls, or worse would turn his phone off so it would go directly to voice mail. Nothing good happens when people stay out that late at night.

I felt this way for along time. I actually found I had a lot of resentment for it. Mainly because I found myself being the baby sitter and it is never fun being the one sober one. I have found that since I have let go of the resentment and participated that she si starting to warm up more. I think the not returning calls is DB 101, not to pursue....though I was very guilty of this as well.

I know what is like not to have a heartfelt gift not appreciated....especially one purchased under those conditions.

Oh well. I feel bad because I have my health back, and yet our lives are on hold because of this MLC. It’s like being given the secret to life, but not being able to communicate it to anyone. Or at least the people most important to you.

Whatever you do don't put your life on hold....you fought hard for that and should enjoy it to the extent that you can.....the H will likely come along...it just might take him a bit of time. That is the worse thing about these life changing moments, you finally get it all figured out and now you have to wait for the most important person in your life to get on the same page.

One of these threads has a link to MLC which kind of explains the different stages they go through. I found it a good read. One other thing I have found recently that helps me is the thread on "True Giving"; true giving is when you give your spouse what they need, not what you want to give, even at your own expense. It is difficult but it is love.....that is at least what I tell myself and I find when I do that, I retain a bigger portion of myself in the process.......kind of a mind trick I play on myself