Thanks Twindad, the advice you gave "to believe nothing of what you hear from them and only about half of what you see" was huge for me. My H looks and seems like he is doing wonderfully well but I wonder if its an act. I wish I had some real insight on how he really is, the only thing I have is the text that told me he missed me. I hold onto that and think that there might be hope. His job changed who he was, he became less loving and the affection dissapeared. His colleagues at work were feeding his ego and he no longer needed support from me. His work is extremely stressful and works very long hours, even at home when he didn't need to be working he was. Sometimes he would wake very early and fall asleep very late just to work. I feel that there has been another women at work he grew close to and she filled a void for him. She gave him what I guess he couldn't get from me. I do want to save the marriage but I don't want to be with who he is today. I fell in love with a carefree man and I don't even know the cold, heartless person he has become.
