Does anyone have any tips about how to answer people? I am starting to resent people that are only trying to show me kindness and I don't want to alienate people.
unless it is your mom/sister or best friend who knows all you've gone through I'd just tell thank them for their concern but that at this point things are on a holding pattern. Then immediately change of subject and ask them something about their lives
About replying to him, also tell him that you dont' know what to do either, let him do the leg/thinking work and have him sweat it out. It's also a great way to drag your heels and buy time. If it becomes more serious (he mentions putting the house on the market for sure, etc etc) tell him that you are not going to communicate by txt only about such important matters.
And trust me on this, just so you'll have all your bases covers, talk to a L, you dont' need to retain one, but it will be so much better for you just to know what could happen in the event of a permanent S. Just go for a consultation and check what are your rights and what benefits you most. That way, if the time comes when you guys have to seriously talk about financial matters you'll know where you stand.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
