Too late for DB, thread 7

[cw68]

You know, I knew the answer when I was typing it here. No email.

That's right, it's 2nd Saturday! If we don't go, I'll bring the kids to Java City to see my friend play guitar there at 6pm and then see some exhibits afterwards. They are good for two stops before they get bored.

[newnamenewlife]

He'll check it out? What does that mean? Check out the website? CW, your H drives ME nuts with the wishy-washiness! He gets my hopes up for you, then pulls away, then gives a vague signal that he's not done. Can you please tell him LMG needs him to make a decision?!

(OK, sorry--hope you don't take that the wrong way. I'm being a little silly and you might not be in the mood for that.)

Clearly, I am terrible at living in limbo. You, on the other hand, should get a medal for your patience!

[MichelleLT]

Can you please tell him LMG needs him to make a decision?!

LMAO. Awesome!

If we don't go, I'll bring the kids to Java City to see my friend play guitar there at 6pm and then see some exhibits afterwards. They are good for two stops before they get bored.

Perfect!

[cw68]

I don't know what check it out means. I guess it means he'll open the document? But, the question is, will he look at it with an open mind? Because if he won't, I'd rather him just ignore the whole thing. The whole little bits of hope drive me up the wall too.

LMG, I'll tell him your needs. Maybe he'll listen to yours?

[minkerman]

CW....

You are doing great. But girl, be consistent. When you feel like NOT being consistent, post here. Letting him do some of the work, and you being consistent, is (I believe) your best chance.

You need to be a bit unpredictable.

My DB counselor told me I was the stable one, W was the unstable one.

So my task was to do things that she would see as out of character for me (breaking her stereotype of me). I think that was what eventually brought her back.

Breaking up the marriage was HER idea. Until we had the "breakup dinner" (coined by me) and I told her I was wishing her well, but moving on.

She came back the next day.

I love my DB counselor.

Anyway, I wish you all the best. I'm still watching all you guys. I am not complacent by any means...after all, one false move and I could end up back here!!!!

[cw68]

Mink, when you see me being inconsistent, bring me a 2x4! In our relationship, H was the stable one and I was unstable.

Couple of interesting happenings on H's side. Tonight the kids and I were at our next door neighbor's house swimming (our pool is in their backyard, hehehe) and I called to let H know that the kids' bag and carseats would be on the porch for him and to come by when he arrived here. H comes over, we did the no-kiss-cheek-touch hug and the neighbors, H and I were sitting around relaxing as the kids swam. After ten minutes or so, Gary offers H a drink. I thought H would take that as the opportunity to leave, but takes a beer instead and stays to chat for quite a while. H later leaves (I don't get up to hug him, first day without any kiss I think EVER) and neighbors ask me to stay for dinner. All good.

Come home, log in and see messages that just today H added my 22-year old niece as a friend on his Facebook and added her 20-year old bro last week. Nephew just graduated AF basic this past weekend and H sent him an email. WTH?

I see my H as one confused puppy. He doesn't want to come back, but doesn't want to break away. I guess I should remember that actions speak louder than words and he's had plenty of time to break away.

I'm still dark.

[Virtually_Handsome]

((((((cw))))))

Dark is good!

[MichelleLT]

Hmmmm, interesting actions on your H's part.

Stay dark. Make him come to you if that's what he wants.

(((cw)))

PS. What nice neighbors!

[cw68]

They are the best neighbors ever.

OK, I was sick all last night, throwing up over and over for a few hours. H drops off kids this morning, sees me sick, tells me to call him if I need anything. My girlfriend calls to see if my kids want a playdate and when she finds out I'm sick, she offers to take them and sets up a different afternoon playdate so I'm without the kids all day as I'm ill.

I just logged into the computer and H sent me an email saying, "I’m really sorry you aren’t feeling well. I know you don’t want to play happy family etc., but please let me know if I can do anything to help today." Replied that I appreciated the offer, but that I had it taken care of. Nothing more.

Dark. I don't need him. I want him, but don't need him. He's the one that wants this, he's going to get it. While it doesn't mean that I want to be pissy with him, he can't just choose when to be the nice guy. He wants to be my ex, he gets the ex role. Just wish I didn't have kids with him and have to deal with him for the rest of my life.

I'm off. I'm sick, I'm unhappy and my body as well as my heart hurts.

[MichelleLT]

Awwww. I am sorry you are sick!

(((cw)))

Movie day perhaps? Or curl up with a good book?

I hope you feel better soon.