Hope4us struggle, part 4

[Hope4us]

LIS, Oh yes, the FIX.

Here is what I would see. After OM moved to his new work location ~250 miles away and WW started going to see him everyother weekend she would be in the best moods when she got back. Trying to make everything as nice at home as she could, but within 3-4 days her mood had gone pretty low. If OM would come to our town to see her the next weekend, by Thurs night her mood would start to pick up, Friday she'd be on cloud nine as well as the rest of the weekend. If he didn't come up she'd get lower and lower until her next trip to see him would be almost there and then her mood would start to pick back up.

Once I exposed the affair and "their" troubles started she was as low as you could get. We went on a family vacation a couple weeks later and for the first 4-5 days she was, lets just say, not very pleasant to be around. But then her mood changed which I discovered later was because they had been in contact and I'm assuming he told her they could try to get together because the next Saturday after we got back she took off early to go see him. I called OMW and she busted him on seeing WW and when she got back she was about as angry and down as you can be. She was that way for probably 3 weeks or so. I'm assuming because during this time OMW told me that she and OM were trying to make their marriage work which I'm sure was why WW was so down. Then right before Christmas all the sudden her mood got pretty high again, but she was still angry with me. I found out a couple days later that OM's marriage was headed down the tubes again so that's why her mood was up.

A couple weeks later, mood down terribly again and stayed that way for probably a month or so. Then, BAM, On cloud nine again which I discovered shortly after was because WW thought OM was going to come visit. I had gone out of town for the weekend and she was really up and when I got back she was a bit*h on wheels. Found out OM didn't visit.

Ok, I could go on and on, but you get the gist. Well, this latest "breakup" after I exposed to the kids, I got the same anger for quite a while. I think it lasted longer this time because it's very probably the affair is finally over in her head. But she's slowly coming out of it now, not the terribly down one minute and then as high as a kite the next. This has been a more gradual process.

I guess I think of it this way. If you're a drug addict and don't get your fix, you're going to be angry. But once you know you're going to score your next fix and then you do, that high will last a while until you start coming down from it. Then until you get the next fix, you're angry/down.

But this time, it's more like she's going through the Withdrawal from the drug of choice, the OM. And the longer she's off him (sorry, no pun intended), the more she returns to normal.

At least that's what I see. I could be totally wrong about the whole situation, but it seems pretty much exactly on script.