Red flag indeed. Sounds like he is having a very hard time with it and likely an EA as you suspect. Though from my experience the emotions of an EA can be very powerful. I actually had a similar experience to your H about 4 years ago during a rough time in my life where I just eventually broke down.
It sounds like you handled it very well. It also sounds like a lot of those emotions are likely guilt driven. The fact that he would play his hand a little bit (trying to guess your suspicions) likely means he is hiding something. I think you did well not to engage and thing you are probably right that this is an MLC. When and if he is ready he will tell you....it all comes down to what are you willing to put up with.
I am glad to hear you were calm and don't lose yourself in this alien abduction.
-And the bull gave a huge leap to the left but hope was able to hold on-
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
