People around me are all saying I have to cut everything off with him. Then I go on this site, and it looks like I should be doing the opposite. I'm very confused.
Jenny,
I know what you mean, I was told by all my W's family and friends to just cut her off completely and watch her drown in her own space. I knew in my heart that this was not the right answer. I decided to suck up my pride and just be her best friend and have observed positive results.
No one knows your H as good as you do, so you need to go with what you feel is right. I would just recommned whatever approach you take, try it, observe results and adjust as necessary.
It sounds like he appreciated the call....he might be a little lonely but too proud to say anything.
So far my approach seems to be working for me. Just go in with a childs mind, don't expect to get any results.
Being a doormat was one of my biggest fears but I just looked at it from the perspective that regardless of what happended at the end of the day, I gave with my heart and with love knowing I might not receive anything in return.
Best wishes with which ever approach you take, just don't be afraid to change your approach if it isn't working
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
