That is a good book, I get lot's of ideas from it. Probably wouldn't hurt to re-read it.
I know that I have no control over how he parents and that's actually not so bad. He's always been a good Dad. The hardest part for D's seems to be that they've lost a connection with him. They don't know what or how to say things to him. It's just sad to watch. You're right that I do want to protect them from that and there is no way to do it.
