Hope4us struggle, part 4

[Hope4us]

Thought I would post an update for the rest of yesterday evening.

We went shopping for the cell phone and then a few groceries and then went home and grilled out. It was as normal of a day as you can have getting through this crap. Like I mentioned above, this was the absolute best day we've had in 8 months. If you didn't know something was wrong, you'd never have known.

Progress? I hope so. I just hope it's not WW thinking that she can have a "normal" life the next couple years while sleeping on the couch, saving her money for her exit and enjoying DS16's last few years at home.

But I know for us to make progress, we'll need a lot more days like this before she can see what a mistake the affair was.

Yesterday she was talking about more things in the future, like when her current cell contract is up in Oct what phone she's going to get, etc. Makes me think she's thinking of the future with us, but again, not sure in what capacity at this point.

Oh, and she shared one more bit of info that is potentially GREAT NEWS. WW told me yesterday that the enabler GF may be out of a job soon. She's a contractor working on a project that when the project is complete she may be done with the company. WW said the enabler really needs a full time job because she needs the benefits and if our company doesn't hire her full time she'll need to go elsewhere. WOOHOO. I really don't think the company will hire her full time. If it was my department, I wouldn't. That would be FANTASTIC. Get that bad influence out of WW's daily life. Of course, I played the simpathetic, caring spouse and said "that would be too bad if she had to go elsewhere", but inside I was ready to burst out laughing!

WW is on vacation the rest of the week. We'll see if her attitude stays the same and then how it is when she goes back to work next week. Might be time to bring up again how this job is affecting our marriage and what could we possibly do to change that.

Seems like more baby steps. I'm not going to get too high because the fall is too hard, but I'm hopeful she's turning the corner. At least with the weeks vacation, if she still emails/IM's OM from work, there will be a week and a half of NC. Of course I'll be checking the cell bill to make sure that's true, but all in all, we seem to be making some small progress. Just hope it keeps going.