in limbo and an emotional mess...

[SueS]

mzul-

Where are you and how are you? Just checking on you.

You said it in your post.....you have no control over this. It hard to take the stance of....okay then, I'll just stop fighting. You have kids involved. You certainly don't want to see this OW in their lives in any way, shape or form. There were times that I just wanted to give up, give in. I didn't because of my D4. My M is on the path of D, but I don't feel like I gave up. I hate saying I gave up. I fought, I just didn't win this time. Sounds like you've told your H how you feel and he's listened. It's in his hands now as to what he's going to do/choose.

The OW in my sitch works, but works nights. That's how she met my H. They worked together. She's not a supportive mom though. She's ready to pack up and kids and take them away from her H, but he's been the only support they've known for a long time. She works nights on M-Thurs. & then Sun. She has Friday off, but goes out at night and plays Bunko with her friends.....or meets my H. She spends all day Sat. with her kids, but then sleeps Sunday until she had to get up for work. Essentially, she spends less than a day & 1/2 with them most weeks. It's really, really sad. And this is the woman my H wants to be with? Someone who will chose him over her own children? Good luck to them both. Don't get me wrong. I still hurt, but the pain isn't nearly as intense any more. It's there from time to time, but it's gets better.

I wish I could give you my email address, but I don't think they let us do that any more on this site. Let me know how you're doing, okay.

Hugs - SueS