I have been thinking about you a lot. You made it through probably the hardest day in your life so far. She will realize her mistake. I just hope it is not too late. I remember the happiness at first, too. I felt good because I was no longer sneaking around (it was now "ok" in my mind because we were separated) and I still had my son and house all day. You are right that she won't "feel" it until she doesn't see the kids and she has to work. She needs to lose something.
