need some insight

[TwinDad]

Hey feeling, sorry you are hear, but there are some good people. My W and I have been spearated for about 1 month. In the time leading up to the S, I would ask her to lets work on our M to which I would always hear "I would have to want to work on my M and I don't want to". It was painful and hurtful. I must say I was failing misearbly at DB, of course I hadn't bought the book at that time either. Since implementing some of those strategies (basically I am choosing to be her best friend and let her initiate contact and I never bring up the R) I have heard from some of her friends that she very much wants me back.

I doubt seriously she will ever come out and say that (too much pride), but I have noticed little baby steps.

I guess the only advice I could give would be if you want to have your M work then don't give up. Remember, DB principals are based on you changing (yourself, your approach, etc) and those changing affecting a change in your spouse. Also remember to believe nothing of what you hear from them and only about half of what you see.

Best wishes