Have you been through a retro? Like you said you and I are in the same sitch some times. It sounds like you and your H need to bring the OW out of the shadows and talk it out. Just like I think my W and I need to also. What I feel is I need to make it W and me against the world again. Not Wife I and OM. I will need her to cut off totally in front of me. I do not think the OM is an issue really. But it is the act of shunning him for me that will help me move on... understand? It’s kind of like saying “Ok if you don’t care about it spit on it”.
I think I need to see something not just hear the words...
H
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
