MaryA, Very sorry to read what happened today. i am sure your dad and lawyer will take care of this mess tommorow. Don't worry about it. From what i have read here (granted it is only your side of the story), the only thing you are guilty of is loving your husband (who happens to be a real wack job). I knew this from day one with the thermostat and some of the other stuff you posted. All you have to do in front of a judge is tell a couple of those stories and your H is done. I come from a tight nit Italian family and I actually know my share of nut cases. Your H makes these guys look like model husbands. I know your D is going through some rough times so maybe some time with nonno and nonna is not all bad for her and for you. Try to spend the night with some friends if you can.....try to relax. Just the fact that he left you without transportation by taking your car keys will speak volumes to the judge. Try to have a good night...your daughter is in good hands, your dad will be there in the morning....everything will be alright.
nik -- no there has been zero papers. h is never here when the mail comes.
OK good... this tells me he's flat out lying to you again.
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I have left numerous messages to the lawyer. I'm afraid he's going to use my past depression/anxiety card (I am stable and being treated and it has NEVER effected my parenting). of course he is using this as a way to scare me to get what he wants. I just pray the judge sees this.
Stop leaving messages - they'll get the picture and get back to you ASAP in the morning, I am sure. Leaving more messages may worry THEM about the "anxiety" thing too.
And... a LOT of people suffer from depression, anxiety, etc. and are fantastic parents. The judge will know this. There is NO WAY I can see them limiting custody becaues you're on Zoloft, stable, being treated. It's ridiculous.
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is it possible he can get full custody so that I have no access to my duagher? HE"s the one who left!!!!
Who left has almost nothing to do with the custody. But, no, I sincerely doubt that's possible.
Sara has some great ideas - start documenting.
SG has a good idea too, about calmly calling the police in each area.
((((Mary))))
This really sucks - I am so sorry you're having to go through this. I think you will be fine very soon.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Not good that he's lying to you - but good in that I sincerely doubt there's a court hearing tomorrow at 9.
I just realized too - is she out of school for the summer?
And she's missing a counselor appt. tomorrow due to H's stupidity right?
Document it ALL.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I hope you and your D are ok. Just as an aside really, but if your H is using all these tactics to get you to sign those darn papers to do with the money, surely this is all duress and if you did sign them they would be invalid because of that?
As Sara and others have said, document everything.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I hope your day is going far better now that you can get the L's help.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Thinking of you Mary. Hope we hear good news from you soon.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
went to court. lawyer and dad were there. h was there. when we finally got in front of judge, judge said there wasn't enuogh to go on on H's part to make a decision. our new court date is this friday.
I found out that h himself called social services claiming I'm a "danger" to h because of my "drug" issue (on AD's), that I abuse them, totally not true.
he also said that someoone at the school last week claimed i dressed d5 in a provacative outfit. I have a hard time getting her dresssed for school and worked out a deal with her teacher that if she's in a "funny or wrong" outfit, that I'll have a normal out if her back. this has been established with hter teacher and principal (they know all about what is happening. the day she went to school that day, she dressed herself in a dress and tights. apperently the dress was too short (I made her put on tights). social worker is really only concerned about this but will talk to school tomorrow.
ALSO in the middle of the night, h TOOK my car. so now I have no car. Lawter is now working on me getting it back asap among other things.
believe me, I didn't think the dress was too short and she DID have tights on.
I'm really scared that the judge will see me as "unfit" even though h LEFT US and I have doen eveything everyone has told me to do. I'm a good mother and have kept her safe and reassured during this whole thing.
I think your H is shooting himself in the foot, time after time! A five year old in a shortish dess and tights isn't going to get you rules an unfit mother. On the other hand, a man taking his W's car keys, and then her car, in the middle of the night?
Stay calm, and let your lawyer work. I really think the judge is going to see right through your H.
