What are we doing, where am I, where are we at?

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Stillfighting,

Sorry to hear she moved out again. Sounds like you need to take care of yourself and regroup. It aint over til the fat lady sings. She sounds very confused. Your feeling of discouragement are expected under the circumstances. Sounds like she needs time and space. Keep DBing!

You said something about the relatives getting her to come back, etc. Although it's great that they are pro-marriage, but that might mean pressure for her. I remember certain people from our church, W's cousins, trying to get her to reconsider, but all they did was make her dig her heels in. Although I did NOT put them up to it, their involvement somehow seemed to backfire on ME. But the WAW then starts to think everyone is against her. Just my theory.

I finally asked our friends, priest, family, to back off, to be available to her and be good sounding boards to her. At least that way, the W would not totally slam the door on our (marriage) advocates. As a result, my W has re-connected with her cousins (out allies), and that can't be bad. Can't blame our loved ones though. They mean well. I wish my in-laws were as supportive as yours. Don't give up.

Get some rest and regroup, my friend. She needs to figure things out and it's up to you to get healthy, attractive and take care of yourself.