Some us have discovered that piecing is harder than standing, once the shine of 'Their Back!' is gone. : )
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I'm having difficulties trusting, I have my doubts about the gambling and he hasn't been very open with his money issues. I keep thinking about how he left me and the kids- how could he do that? Will he leave again? It still haunts me.
He is back right? He made a choice to come back, just because he did doesn't mean you don't stand up for yourself, or he gets to walk all over you. If this is a concern adress it with him. You have learned how to talk, and what works, with him. So it is up to you to find a way to do it, for YOU.
As for trust and the other fears...
Trust grows and those fears fade, ever so slowly, with consistent actions on their part, you have to let your guard down to see those changes over time as well.
All this time we have learned how to protect ourself, armor up, and dettach, and now in order to heal we have to expose our wounds.
To love someone is to allow them to hurt us in ways no one else can, to love someone is to allow them this ability, but trust that they won't.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
