Ooops - Michelle and I cross-posted. (although I think we said almost exactly the same thing, so I hope it's helpful to you K)
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
OK one more quick post then I'll shush so you can catch up..
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I would have just prolonged this grief, but if I hadn't driven by there I would still be happy and hopeful.
I think this is a key statement - you're tying "happy" with "hopeful about this R." Be happy, be hopeful about your future. That will come with healthy detachment.
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I talked to about 6 different friends yesterday, all with varying advice.
I forgot to add - great job reaching out for support. I'm glad to see it as it's so important.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Thank you both. All great advice. All difficult to do. I'm not sure why I'm reluctant to "let her go." I will read the coping stuff tonight. I'm off to the shrink and a class at the university.
Thanks again. It is so helpful and supportive to have you all. I don't even know you and you are lifesavers (angels).
(((k))) Have a good time talking to the C and have fun in class!
It is very difficult to do. It takes time and effort. Self-introspection is actually pretty exhausting sometimes. But you can do it! And you WILL be fine.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2