just wanted to give a quick update. things are going well. we've had some ups and downs and its definitely an adjustment for both of us, but also a good thing. a really good thing (at least in my book!).
h asked for some names for IC last week and did his own calling based on the list I found, and seems eager to get started on it, which makes me happy because more than MC even I think it is important for us to deal with our individual issues. don't get me wrong, I still think MC is important. but I think we will both be healthier/have a healthier marriage if we deal with some underlying issues on our own as well.
I am very happy to say that we are doing so much better in our marriage than we did pre-affair. at least that is my take on it(h, since I have no doubt you will read this, feel free to tell me otherwise). one of our biggest problems was communication and I think our patterns with that have changed drastically. not perfect, but oh so much better. soooo much better.
He moved in this weekend and its getting less strange/more right having him around again. loving it, in fact. in many, many ways. oh so many ways. but I also still know that I will be okay no matter what, which makes it all the sweeter.
so that's it for now. we bought a new bedroom set yesterday, which I'm excited to get (we've never had one, have used hand-me-down bits and pieces since we were married). its funny, when the bomb first hit (or a month or so after), I went thru the whole organizing/re-arranging/decorating thing that so many of us seem to go thru. am going thru it again. guess that's about right...big changes beget big changes.
hope everyone is doing well.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
