I just wanted to let you know that I think of you and your H often. You are such a great wife and mother and you deserve every chance to piece your marriage back together. I think it fortunate in a way, for you at least, that your friends' tragic situation can come to at least some good, in that your H has a very obvious example laid bare before him for how ugly and harmful such selfish WAS behavior can be.
I'll remember to include your friends in my prayers. I really believe now that God does indeed try to make even our most horrible of life's circumstances work out to some good in someone's life, if as a an example to others if nothing else.