After careful thought this morning after my post, I had already made the call. I told him that I felt bad about the fight and that I thought he should go on the golf trip. I told him that the open house was Sunday afternoon, not Saturday like I had previously thought, and if he wanted to go on the trip and stop by the open house when he returned that would be fine. However, I said I knew that he would probably be tired (read hung over) and that if he didn't make the open house that would be ok too. He said, "thank you, that really means a lot to me." He said "I know the open house is important to you and I might not go on the trip." He was busy at work, but I could hear the sincerity in his voice. He said that we would talk more about it later.
I feel so much better. I would like him by my side at this family function, but only if he wants to be there. I think I reacted so strongly because this golf group and location is where our problems started to come to light last fall. (big drinking and party crowd)
I am trying to keep calm, rational reign of my thoughts and emotions, but sometimes he catches me blind side. It's that sudden, sharp left turn on the bull that always knocks me off.
I will remember your "would I rather be right or would I rather be married". That says it all in a nutshell.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
