Friday night I went to the end of the year faculty bbq. It was nice to unwind with my coworkers with no students around!
Saturday night my two daughters invited me to go out to eat with them and see Sex and the City. Yes, my youngest DD is now 17 and can go see rated R movies! Of course there were scenes in the movie that made me a little uncomfortable being with my daughters! I got home from the movie and saw where I had a missed call from H on the house phone. He called oldest DD on her cell, but apparently had tried calling me at home first.
Sunday H came over and worked on the pool and mowed the yard. While there he told me he tried calling me but I wasn't home. H said he had planned on calling me earlier, but had a crisis with a friend.
About two weeks ago two of our friends separated, but only stayed separated about a week. The H accused the W of having an affair because she was never home. She assured him that was not true. She also told me this. She has been with me through all of my separation and has seen the devastation that it caused our family. So it never even entered my mind that she would do that to her family.
Apparently, I'm very gullible because she has been having an affair since October. Her husband and children are devastated. My H told me that he went to the H's house Saturday night and both of their adult children were there. They of course are heartbroken and very angry. My H is very upset with her, which of course I find ironic since he did the same thing to his family!
I think it is opening my H's eyes. He is able to see the pain that the H and children are in. He always seemed blind to our pain.
The H (friend) came to our house last night. I swear he looks like he has aged 20 years. The H asked me "What did I do to deserve this?" I said,"Nothing, you did not deserve it." My H was standing here listening to this conversation. He hugged me and said, "Yoyo, has really stood by me since I messed up and she should have kicked my a$$. The friend said, "Yes, she should have." My H said, "But we are working things out." The friend said "That's really good."
So although I hate to see my friends in pain, I do think it opened my H's eyes. Well at least for the time being...
By the way my friend is the last person I would have thought would do this. I guess it just goes to show you that maybe there is something to a midlife crisis.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
