I am devastated. I was doing so well. I would have just prolonged this grief, but if I hadn't driven by there I would still be happy and hopeful. Now, I can't think of one reason to be hopeful. I called my shrink and made an appointment for this afternoon. I talked to about 6 different friends yesterday, all with varying advice.

I know I'm looking for one ray of sunshine in this pile of shi#. But it is possible that she and the "friend" are "just friends" and "friend" co-signed the mortgage for her. I can't imagine moving to a new city and buying a house though unless it's with a lover. If it were me, I would have just gotten an apartment if I was just "getting away" for awhile. And why didn't they just move into "friend's" old house? Why a "new" one? She had a nice house already I think.

I just can't believe this is happening. I only slept 5 hours last night. I kept waking up and asking myself if it was a dream or real. Through the end of December, GF was still talking about, "It's not right, God doesn't want it, I'll never be with another woman, etc." Then, Feb. 1 the house is up for sale and March 25, the "new" house was purchased. I'm a little shocked at the timing. Doesn't that sound extremely quick - to "fall in love" with an old friend (they were friends from way back) and spend enough time together in one or 2 months (and 5 hours apart) to make the decision to buy a house together and live together? It sounds crazy.

This would all be so much easier to deal with if I knew the facts. I can't find anyone who knows the facts and will tell me. She frieked out yesterday when I called her "ex" so I don't think calling her mother will be appropriate. She'd probably have me arrested (if you can do that).

I know - it's time to give her up. BUT if she is still "friends" and "friend" just co-signed to help her escape her life in this state and she is still confused about me, religion, what to do, etc., What would I do to keep the doors open for any possibility of reconciliation? Is there anything besides leave her alone?

Thanks. Any advice is appreciated and very helpful.