Wish I could read her mind>>>>

[Forrest Gump]

Well.. the rule for DB ing is for them to come to you on it. Again the general idea behind it is you make your self more attractive by working on the bad things and fixing that within yourself. When the other person starts moving closer.. you build on that.

So if we apply that rule to your stitch that is why you have been hearing.. "Go with the Flow."

Usually what happens is that people start the R talks after the other person "comes home".

Your case is way different.. she never left.. she is just saying she wants to.

So.. Once people start down the road to reconciling the general thought is you try and move things forward. For me it was sitting down with my W and trying to figure out how things should work. We did a lot of talking about what went wrong. Or what things should be different. The big thing to look for here is when the other person starts feeling uncomfortable or attacked. That would be a sign for you to slow down and rethink what you are saying.

All I can show you is things that worked for me. I question whether to do that right now.. simply because she is still saying don't get your hopes up.

Bworl.. agrees with that statement by saying this..

"I absolutely do NOT think it's wrong to WANT some assurance. But let's face it, if you ask her, you already know what she'll say. So what else is there? To me, you keep working at this better you, you strive for consistency in the new you, you continue to show how much you value her.....and, unfortunately, you do that with no real way of knowing if her intentions are changing."

Once you see a change in some way you need to look at it again. I really think your focus would be better spent at changing the critical you. For the long term. To me.. stop worrying where she might be going.. and see where she is.

"I am still, at this point, waiting for her to give some positive verbal communication that she is willing, correct?"

Sometimes.. actions speak louder than words.. most of the time actions are much more clear than talking. She has to decide if she is WA or not. The only thing you can do is make it more appealing so that she dosen't. If she was truly done.. she would be gone.