This is where you need to really detach. You made some mistakes, don't make anymore, back away.
Your H is going through the process, that is all. He is saying things that they all say. He is working on the relationship with OW, they all do.
He is putting her first, they all do.
Mine wanted to be friends at first, then he said he did'nt, now he does not know his nose from his ass.
You are taking all this way too personal. It is not about you, my dear, it is about him.
Decide to get off this rollercoaster. Only you can get off it, it is a choice. Ride the ride until you puke, or go on a different ride. By going to his home, uninvited, you went back on the rollercoaster.
His emotions are fleeting, he does not have a good handle on them. He is confused, disoriented, depressed.
You can still stand and be divorced, many many do. Some have to get divorced. It is o.k., it is just a stupid piece of paper. They find real quick that the divorce did not make them happy. In fact, it made things so much worse. You and only you are his covenent spouse. He will never be able to forget about you and your children. Don't forget that.
Now I look at your sitch quite positively. The OW is NOT SURE SHE LOVES HIM ANYMORE. OH MY GOD THAT IS HUGE. Let it play out, leave him alone. The more pressure he feels from you, the more he will want bimbo.
Don't let a set back in DBing get you discouraged. We all make mistakes. You are only human.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
