I think she wants to be friends

[sleeper]

A question for all Knights of the Order of the 2x4.......

In a way I asked this question a few days ago and thought I was settled on my plan of action but now I'm having scond thoughts. There is a financial problem x-W is unaware of as she is on vacation, I discovered it after she left and I have not told her about it because I didn't want to ruin her vacation.

I was going to take care of it and inform her of the entire sitch (after the fact) when she returned. It's going to cost a couple of thousand dollars to deal with it.

This AM in that strange moment of clarity just before I woke up I had second thoughts.

We're not married anymore.

Although still financially intertwined (no FS) it involves property she adamantly says is hers.

I've been overly nice (the meek will inherit the earth but we'll be too banged up to enjoy it) and it really hasn't gotten me anywhere.

Some say I've denied her the experience of being divorced.

Another question is when she gets back and I tell her and she asks for help how do I answer?

1. Not my problem. (too cocky)
2. I'd help if you were my wife. (too leading)
3. Ask your boyfriend. (too vindictive)
4. Ich wise nicht! (too German)
4. Like, Oh my god! (too valleygirl)