Thanks for the feedback. I imagine I would have laughed if D had said it. I don't want them to think I'm a saint (no worries there \:\) ), but I don't want to add anything to the fire so to speak either. It's one thing for me to say I'm upset as opposed to calling names.

I think he wants to help D's with their anger/emotions behind all of this, but I don't think he knows how. I also think that for him to talk to me about it brings up all kinds of emotions for him. So that leaves me in the trenches so to speak. Where I think things much worse than "idiot".

The C I spoke with last week said he will contact H (at some point) to go in and discuss D13. I commented that b/c we get along it might be good to go in and hear it together. The C's take is that even though we "get along" there might be tension and he thinks seperate would be better. Has anyone else had their kids see a C where you and your spouse talk with C sperately? How has that worked for you. In my mind, I feel like we should be able to talk about D's together, esp if there is a C there to guide the convo.