As for me I went out with friends for the first time in a year a week ago. Met a woman who works with exotic animals. I was a zoo keeper so we had a good talk. My friend said she kept staring which was nice. While I focused on her 2 woman came that were friends with my friends gf. Later one called to ask why I didnt talk to her. Ends up she wants to go out with me. And a few days before that another friend told me her friend(shes 24) said i was cute. I guess attitude is everything. I finally see there is life after divorce. I DONT need the ex. None of us do!! If they chose divorce or to walk out of our lives its THEIR problem. Even if we had our own issues which added to the problem. We DIDNT deserve it and we WILL survive and have lives far better than we would have otherwise. Sometimes we just lose sight of that because we are hurting. But God will give us more than we have lost. It just takes time.
As far as moving on guys.....give it time. Work thru the feelings. Give yourself time to heal. Let yourself feel whats there. Dont ignore it or bury it. And understand that every time she does "something"that hurts its just another chance to release some part of the pain and heal.
Bill
Bill,
I had pretty much sworn off the forums for a while.... However, when the e-mail came through...... I felt like God was speaking to me.... I wanted to thank you for your words.... They are just what I needed...
By the way, it is great to hear you have no shortage of women chasing after you....... As Chaz and I found out, the real problem is sorting through all of the options....... I pray God gives you wisdom in this area.....
Take Care,
NMD
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
As Chaz and I found out, the real problem is sorting through all of the options....... 
