Hi Cagzmom, I am so sorry for your pain, yes it's unfathomable that they will try to restore such a new rel. when they had no time for us. As far as the standing after D. that is purely a personal choice. Some people do it just by not dating. Some do it until they meet someone else. Others stand for religious reasons believing that only the death of the former spouse releases them from their vows. Divorce busting is also for you.It helps you heal, not to feel like a second class citizen. It helps you see that you did all you could to save your marriage but IF the other person in that marriage is finished then short of a miracle you cannot do all the work on your own. You have not lost your dignity, you are still you. You can and should hold your head up high and be proud of who you are. This doesn't happen over night, it al takes time to be healed. You where together a long time, lots of memories. Do what you have to do to protect yourself financially and then be kind to yourself. You cannot help your h. You can be the best mum for your children. If some day he feels he was wrong,has worked on his issues and comes to you then you have the deciding hand. Until that happens just work on you. I wish you well.
