man, couldn't find your thread! hope you had a good memorial weekend
I'll read it now.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
you know, even though the texting thing happened in my sitch too. H never texted before sitch, and that's all he did with her. But I took it as, when my H would text ME, I would be glad and think about it being one more thing he's doing more with me and less with her. So I was never really torn by the whole texting. I like it too because YOU get to control the convo. if you don't want to read it yet, you don't have to. if you don't want to reply, you don't have to. It gives you WAY more time to think about what you want to say, and if you should say it.
for ex. if H says something about going out one night, and your first reaction is annoyed and upset that they don't ask you, so you say something stupid and wish you hadn't said it. but if they text instead, you start writing it down, and you reread what you wrote and think....I'm not gonna write that, that'll only start an arguement...etc etc.
SOOOOO, I'm for the text! the only bad thing, is you can't see their expression or hear the inflictions in their voice.
anyways, I agree Nik, you should definitely start using it. I'm 99.99% certain your H will be thrilled. this week, pick some random day and random hour and send a nice short text. he'll love it.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Thanks all! I'll post more of an update soon, just wanted to stop in and say thanks for now. Gotta run for bellydance class though.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
woah Nik. I just looked at our number of posts and saw yours! holy cow, over 4K??? and I've got 5 months on you too!
and I KNOW that most of it is on other peoples threads. and I think that is awesome!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
