Why is W walking away so SLOWLY??

[EnergyAZ]

I have not read your other posts, but my wife is walking away slowly as well.

Dropped the bomb on New Years Eve, so its been almost 6 months of this with pretty much no end in sight.

Things are similar to how you describe however on a slower cyclical pattern.

We will go extended times behaving like normal married couple, followed by (thankfully) shorter periods where she gives me the 'dont get your hopes up' and goes right back to that proto-typical WAW mentality.

Then things slowly get back to where I litterally can 'enjoy the ride' just enough to be heartbroken all over again when she reminds me her convictions are still set and tries to convince me how horribe our relationship is.

There are several economic factors playing a role in how slow things are moving. And I am sure if that wasnt a factor she very well may have left a while ago.

But when things are 'normal' they are very good. She implies in several ways that we have a future together. Of course when the manic-like WA mentality returns, she doesnt seem to recall implying anything, or telling me what she felt I wanted to hear to avoid any potential conflict, etc.

Just to give you an idea of the peaks and valleys of these cycles we are going through: We have one child together and there has been plenty of talk about trying for a second this year(I am fully game, always have been). So yeah...it goes from waaaaay up there to waaaay down there. It sux. Its friggin madness I tell ya!

So I suppose I dont have anything to really say other than I feel ya, and I hate the fact that any other human being is going through something like this.

As far as treating her like a WAW - of course. And when things are normal again, go with the flow but do your BEST not to fall into old habits/behaviors that started turning her off to begin with.

There are times I strongly agree with the Sandi who mentioned she might pull this crap to get what she wants. And if thats true....well, I suppose its her due. I understand what a jerk I had been at times in the past and I dont blame her to be skeptical of any positive changes I make, especially at times when I may slip into former poor habit. Its tough, we are all human ya know.

People have little idea how hard it is to live in this rollercoaster where you CANT HELP but 'get your hopes up' because most of the time spent together is pretty good.

So I feel ya!