I know I can also, however, with her zipping to the D line, I just don't see how things will ever ever be.
Forgiveness will make you feel much differently about things. Like a peace - simply letting go of the anger, bitterness, and then honestly ask the Lord to forgive whatever they have done and furthermore, whatever you have done. I can honestly say I've never gotten angry over what my W has done to me. Just hurt. Daggers of pain in my back. But never irate angry. But it's the same...I have to forgive her, otherwise I'll never move forward w/ or w/o her. And that's the point, you have to move past it.
And as a warning, this legal junk, will muck your mind up. I really do love my W. But she is just off her rocker right now. And so, you do contrary to what you in your heart of hearts want to do. I've contemplated calling my MIL right before mine would get the mammoth surprise just to tell her, "just wanted you to know, that I am sorry for what has and what is about to happen, and that I love and will always will love your daughter, I just have no choice."
blah blah...your DB coach is great btw HiC...I hope I have a dollar to speak with her once this month. I could really use the input. I suppose that's what I get for burning 3 DB coaching in 2 week time, b/c of fault stuff. So, I just do as she told me then and use my much clearer instincts...
