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I don't understand why I need the 48 hour rule. This has been my plan for awhile (see previous posts). I was going to 1. Wait for school to end (check) 2. Inform H of what is going on (check) 3. Talk to pastor (have appointment for that this week) 4. Have lawyer write up settlement 5. Look over settlement 6. H comes in an read settlement and hopefully sign 7. Be divorced by the end of the summer


All this sounds good, but the reason I suggested the 48 hour rule is b/c (and I could be wrong) but your recent posts sound like you are in an upset, emotional state rather than a cool, logical positive emotional state (well as positive as one can be in these circumstances.) If you wait 48 hours and still feel the same, then you know your decision is most likely the right one.


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Divorce is my only real choice right now that will give me any peace.


This is one of your comments that makes me think you might want to wait the 48 hours. That sounds like stuff my H says (and my big brother was recommending I do everything the opposite of what my H suggests)!!! \:\) I don't believe divorce is something that will give you peace; I think that has to come from within you and no external things or process (like divorce) will itself give you peace. Karen

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