They are entirely different situations and entirely different women but the fundamentals of DBing haven't changed. And you have the benefit of knowing those fundamentals so pull 'em up in your memory and use them man. God always gives you the tools to survive BEFORE the storm hits.
I know this is rough and it is painful but quit acting like you got caught with your pants down - that's all I'm saying.
i know he does. it is easier this time. last time it was a feel of need. this time, it's more want. but not like i want her to come back and things go back to how they were.... i want his resolved healthily. if it's healthiest that it stays over, then so be it, you know? i am hurt and have some spinning head righ tnow. but for the most part i am strong and healthy. the best i can do for her is to stay that way, and give her what she says she wants. she trusts me, she will come to me if she needs me. if i don't hear from her, i will eventually make contact, not for me, but i want her to be okay
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
it is kind of disturbing to me, that someone can be as into me as she was, and in such a short time do this. it's very rash, and very destructive. pray for a therapy appt for her early in the week
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
right but it's not a big deal to her at this point. you know the whole i'm so sorry thing. i don't know, that's what i have a hard time with. it just sounds like she feels that she's done. if that's how she feels today(i know tomorrow could change) i dont' want to leave them there and make her think it's an in for me. that would be pressure. it will be easier to sit still, and not worry about contact until she is ready(or i am ready) and i don't need anything from her
Stop making everything a strategy.
Just chill out until your head is on straight.
Exactly the point dude, I doubt very seriously that she is coming up with strategies and analyzing all of this like you are. Just sit still......
i don't think she is either. i am not trying to game play or stragitize. i am just doing what i think will make this situation better, by being out of the picture
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
it is kind of disturbing to me, that someone can be as into me as she was, and in such a short time do this.
Why is it so disturbing, have you ever seen the movie runaway bride? That crap is real dude, sometimes people panic. Sometimes they panic last minute and just can't take all the pressure associated with such a huge life choice.
Hell, for all you know her fear may simply be that your friendship has been so valuable to her that she doesnt want to lose it.
and thats cool, but she didn't run away, she ran to someone else. i can understand trippin about getting married, and the change and the stress. but within a week, bouncing and hooking up with another dude.... that is why i am concerned.
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
