she is expecting it to be gone... okay, what do i say when she asks why i didn't get my stuff? also, okay, i will be the first to admit that i can be manipulitive at times. but how is leaving the ring being manipulitive? i am not arguing, i don'tunderstand. the note, i didn't know about so i asked. again i want to leave the door open
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
f'ing edit. i told her i was going to get the stuff cuz i was mad, yes. but, now that i said i was going to, if i don't will that not make it look manipulative? i am confused
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
Christ, Blynd ~ You are a seasoned DB veteran. This ain't your first rodeo. CHILL OUT. CALM DOWN. SHUT UP A MINUTE AND THINK. The only person you can change is you - so what are the real issues here? Which are hers? Which are yours? Spare me the smoke and mirror crap; possible other man, etc....
the root of the problem is that we went to fast. the space will be good for both of us. i know that this girl and i belong together, and i told her i was going to get my stuff because she isn't going to come back, nobody ever fing comes back, i f'ed it up again, and this time it was with a good woman, someone what wanted to be loyal, someone that wanted to have fun, someone what loved me for me, i didn't have to change. we went to fast and i reacted and now she is gone.
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
f'ing edit. i told her i was going to get the stuff cuz i was mad, yes. but, now that i said i was going to, if i don't will that not make it look manipulative? i am confused
Great day in the morning, child!
Is this the artist formerly known as blyndfaith?
Dude, leave the stuff where it is. You don't have to give her any kind of excuse. It ain't nothing that won't keep.
YOU however, are wound about as tight as an 8 day clock and you need to get some perspective - and a good old fashioned GRIP - before you make one more move, send one more message or have one more conversation with that girl.
Stand down and go dark.
FOR YOUR OWN SAKE as much as for the sake of the relationship.
i love her and i want to love her, i didn't have emotions for 2 and a half years amy. i didn't cry when my father died. it isn't that it is just someone, it's that it is her. and if this is it. i don't want to ever see her again, because it will hurt
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
the root of the problem is that we went to fast. the space will be good for both of us. i know that this girl and i belong together, and i told her i was going to get my stuff because she isn't going to come back, nobody ever fing comes back, i f'ed it up again, and this time it was with a good woman, someone what wanted to be loyal, someone that wanted to have fun, someone what loved me for me, i didn't have to change. we went to fast and i reacted and now she is gone.
Wow, you went from strong and honest to being your own victim faster than the speed of light.
Lets not forget this good woman might have cheated on you.
So cut the beating up on yourself crap and LAY OUT THE FACTS.
What are they?
Make two columns on a piece of loose leaf paper.
One column is labeled "FACTS" (that's stuff you KNOW - duh)
and the other is labeled with a big question mark (sh*t I'm pulling outta my ass)
You only need to be in communication with your own soul at this point - NOT her.
i am angry at myself for doing this again. i am angry at myself for letting it get to the point of her leaving and it bother me. i am pissed. that's the problem. i am mad.
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
i love her and i want to love her, i didn't have emotions for 2 and a half years amy. i didn't cry when my father died. it isn't that it is just someone, it's that it is her. and if this is it. i don't want to ever see her again, because it will hurt
Well you're going to have to get yourself together Blynd because you're going to have to see her again before you know if this is "it" or not - so pull it together - you can do this. And you can DB it - unless you let the FEAR of POSSIBLY losing her turn you into a great big wuss.
You have more control than it feels like so start acting like it.
Get your butt on the high road, tighten up and get some perspective.
I'm gonna go take a bath and then I will be back to see if you're still acting like a newbie or not .
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