It's the note that's manipulative.

Christ, Blynd ~ You are a seasoned DB veteran. This ain't your first rodeo. CHILL OUT. CALM DOWN. SHUT UP A MINUTE AND THINK. The only person you can change is you - so what are the real issues here? Which are hers? Which are yours? Spare me the smoke and mirror crap; possible other man, etc....

What is the root of this problem?