She's Gone - No Contact (Part 2)

[NikB]

((((K))))

I'm sorry - I know this hurts.

I don't want to add to the hurt... but I'm also not sure how to say this delicately. I'll do my best OK?

Well, I started typing her another text and she calls. She said "leave me alone, stop calling my friends, get help, you are deranged."

From her perspective, you probably do look a bit deranged. Did you ever have someone you broke up with who JUST DIDN'T GET IT??

It's not so different from a lot of the M'd couples on here - many times the WAS is still confused but certainly there are cases where they are flat out DONE by the time they drop the bomb. My SIL was that way. I think this last time, your GF was that way. The times before she was still confused, but this time she was truly done in her mind/heart.

I must look like a fool. All you had to do was tell me the truth and I would have been happy for you because I am a nice & sane person.

A couple of things here... she DID tell you the truth. That she didn't want to be with you anymore. Right? I don't recall her stringing you along or lying to you, simply not talking to you? (I could be remembering incorrectly though).

I know it's not exactly the same thing, but in my mind it's almost like you two have D'd and you still feel you have a right to know what's going on in her life.

I think she's lost her mind.

Not wanting to be in an R with you anymore doesn't equal losing her mind. It means she doesn't want to be in an R with you anymore.. that's it.

(((K)))

I'm sorry, I know that none of that is easy to think about.

I've thought all along that you needed to detach. Moreso now, obviously - it is most definitely time to move on.