B, Let the situation settle. If you and her are meant to be, the other person will disappear. The more you try to talk to her, the more she'll pull away. Give her some space to realize what she may be losing.
I do not think the financial situation is what tripped her out. I think she just needs time to make sure this is the right thing for her.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
but, i don't want to wuss out either, she wants a man she can respect, she hates girley men. i don't think i was abusive to her, i think i just said my piece, it might not have been polite, but it was how i was feeling
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
answer honestly 1) Where was the first time you ever saw the person you like? taycheedah corr inst(that is where we met)
2) What' s the greatest thing that happened to you today? i woke up
3) How many TRUE friends do you have? a few
4) Would you rather get up early or sleep in? Sleep in
5) Tell me about the shirt you' re wearing? stupid blue
6) What did you do yesterday? field day, sons b-ball pics 7) What would you change about your life right now? uncertainty
9) What's on your bedroom floor right now? well, clothes, blankets 11) Favorite sport? baseball
12) Whats currently bothering you? a lot
13) What was the first thing you did when you woke up? call richie
14) Who did you last IM? don't do that
15) What do you currently hear? the news, and cards slapping
16) Who was the last person to make you mad? nephew
17) When was the last time you had your hair cut? ??? 18) Would you rather be mad or sad? mad
19) Does it take a lot to make you cry? no 20) What' s the worst feeling in the world? insecurity/unsureness
21) Are you close with your mom? no
22) Who were you last in the car with? nephew
24) When were you last outside? about 40 min ago
25) Name one fear you have.
uncertainty
26) What' s your favorite thing to do? not work
27) Does the thought of marriage scare you? i think so
28) How many kids do you want? actually, im good (that kind of concerned me because i answered that i was good with 3, meaning hers and mine)
29) What' s your favorite color to wear? black 30) Who was the last person in your bedroom? dog
31) What are you doing today? workin 32) Would you rather be rich & sad or poor & happy? poor and happy
35) Do you get bored easily? yes 36) What' s something that someone can do that really bothers you? pressure 38) Do you wish you were famous? no
39) Do you make a wish at 11: 11? no
40) When you go to the beach do you swim or lay out more? swim 42) What are you obsessed with? thoughts 43) Who and when was your last hug? nephews, about 8:15
44) Do you like going to the mall to shop or just shopping online? online
45) Can music affect your mood? Always
46) Who is your best friend? richie 48) Have you ever been in a cave? yep
50) When will you hang out or see the person you like? tomorrow (was suppose to come over in sat)
51) Has anyone ever told you that they want to spend the rest of their life with you? yep
52) If you could pick the temperature of the outdoors for the rest of your life, what would it be? 70
53) What are you doing tomorrow? watching the news 54) Do you believe that you can change for someone? no
55) Do you get along with girls? yeah
56) Who was the last person to call you baby? richie 57) Do you crack your knuckles? no
58) What'd you do two nights ago? worked
59) Who was your last call from? sister
60) What show did you last watch? a show on benjamin franklin and john adams
61) Do you wear Hollister? yeah, im a size 0 62) Who' s the last person you had a deep and meaningful conversation with? richie
63) What' s on your mind right now? too much to talk about 64) Would you rather be with your boyfriend/ girlfriend right now? yes 65) Do you have family problems? lol 66) Where are most people in your top friends from? her town
67) Does anyone like you? Yes
68) When was the last time you saw # 4 on your top friends list? ???
69) Were you smiling when you woke up this morning? no
70) Last song you heard? comfortably numb 71) What color is your hair? brown
72) Kissed someone in the last twenty four hours? dog and son
73) Do you give good advice? i think so
74) Ever been skydiving? no
75) Do you like your cell phone? no
76) You tube video? no
77) Do u like Running? no, but i like the feeling i get when im done
78) Do you like myspace or facebook better? ???
79) If you were to die right now, what would you say? im sorry
80) If you were sent to the hospital, who do you think you would call and ask to come? sister
81) Favorite place in the world? anywhere but work
82) Who is number one on your top friends list? ????
83) Would you ever get a tattoo? eeew i hear they hurt
84) How many piercings do you have? 3
85) What is the last movie you watched? bonnie and clyde
86) Who was the last person you kissed? dog and son
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
this was in an email she sent to me may 8th I fell in love with you for your caring, gentle manner, and you're ability to make me feel so safe and loved. I love how you parent your children, I love how you care for your mother and brother, I love how you have this uncanny ability to make me laugh when I want to cry. You are a rock, for more people than just me, and you and someone I am proud to have my son model after! You are the true definition of what a man is, and don't ever question my love for you, ever!
She asked you not to question her love for you. Three weeks ago. Please stop any and all contact with her. You've stated your case. She knows you love her, now give her time to sort things out in her head!!
Her love has not changed Richie. I truly believe this.
Even tho she said your a "Team" and your going through financial problems, this might give her "uncertainty". It shouldn't, but then hey, we all thought at one point when we came to this board that the promises of love we had were supposed to last forever.
Her mind is trying to deal with uncertainty that was already there when you met her. Uncertainty from the demise of her marriage.
I don't know about how the others on here who are now divorced, but I sure can tell you it messed me up bigtime!!
Yes I jumped into a relationship I wasn't ready for, it took me months to realize that. But now, I know I should have stayed alone to give myself time to heal properly and love myself and find me again.
I found trusting men again very hard. Too hard. So I disengaged also.
Doesn't mean I dont care for this man, just means I need time to sort my uncertainties about life out, preferably on my own.
If you don't need your furniture Richie, just leave it.
Slow down, breathe and no MORE CONTACT.
Like Amy said......women hate that.
We'll be here for you sweetie!!
Hugs,
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
